Liberated from Fairness

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Liberated in the Unfair

While we live here in this life we will never reach perfection or complete fairness – that’s just the way it is. Acceptance of that can be hard but doing so is liberating. It may sound strange to say imperfection and the unfair is liberating – and to put it that way it can sound strange. The liberation doesn’t come in the imperfection or unfairness but it the reality it’s not fully obtainable in this life. Try as we may it’s not going to happen.

If we live our life and pursue things knowing that it’s never going to be perfect we are less likely to get upset when life happens. And when we realize that life has unfair moments we can face those challenges better. Some have perfect health, some have chronic illnesses such as MS, and still others get terminal diseases like cancer. That’s not fair, we should all be healthy. As great as 100% health for all would be that’s not reality.

Realizing and accepting the unfairness of life keeps us from beating our heads against the wall. We are less wound up and more likely to live in spite of our situations. We can make the best out of our situations. We are not constantly staring at the unfairness but have looked at the unfairness in the eye and then walked past it. The unfairness no longer keeps us burdened down because we have accepted it as a normal part of life and moved on.

Shackled in the Fair

On the flip side is the rejection of the reality that life is not fair. That rejection is a burden that shackles us down, keeping us unable to move on to bigger and better things. If we reject that life is unfair and life like it is or should be how can we truly move past our unfair situations?

It’s unfair when a parent losses a child. That’s something I would never wish on anyone, even my most vengeful enemy. It happens daily nonetheless, and that is unfair. But if that parent gets hung up on the unfairness of it he/she will never be able to live the life they should. They get stuck in a staring contest with life and it’s unfairness – a contest we can never win. They get shackled down by the idea of fair, never moving on, never living life to the fullest.

 

If we strive against, question, and agonize over the unfairness of life our lives can never be their fullest. It may be unfair to have MS or cancer but who said life is fair? If may be unfair to lose a child but unfortunately that is life. We grieve, yes, we process and bargain but ultimately if we accept the unfairness we can find our lives in places we only guessed. Moving on from the loss of a child allows us to enjoy life with our grandchildren. Moving on from a cancer diagnosis allows us to enjoy quality time with our family. And moving on from the unfair diagnosis of MS we may find ourselves trekking the Himalayas. All possible because we were liberated from fairness.

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